Six thing to know about dating Germans

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In the courting phase, there are endless challenges, despite who your potential partner might be. If you are lucky enough to have a German partner or are considering having one, there are peculiarities you should know before delving in. From culture, values, and communication styles to dating etiquette, learning a little about their relationship quirks pays off. That said, here are some peculiarities of courting a German single so you can get on track for success in your cross-cultural romance. 

  • Recipe for an effective meet-up

So, what’s the first step? Are you a party animal or a shy person looking for something more discrete? When looking to meet a German partner, the options are endless. First off, you can take advantage of online dating apps and websites for German singles with as a good starting point. Here can ease into every in and out of dating a German via text communications or even arrange the first date if everything goes well.

Whatever you seek in a partner, you will likely find your perfect match on a dating site. Be specific about your preferences when creating your dating profile for the best results. Alternatively, you could visit the local places where most Germans love hanging out. Whether at an ex-pat bar, a beer garden, or at their meet and greet meeting, you can rest assured you’ll meet more Germans than you can handle. 

  • German Mentality, Culture, and Values

When seeing someone from a different walk of life, you can’t overlook the cultural differences that might arise. Fortunately, if you’re dating a German, their culture highly values politeness, formality, and restraint. They also place high regard on integrity, efficiency, and diligence. If you spend much time around them, their respect for structure, discipline, and planning fascinates you. Hence, if you date them, it’s okay to assume that they expect these values to bind you too. 

Conversely, Germans find small talk uncomfortable and prefer direct conversations. Do not be surprised if they ask you intimate questions early on. They are big believers in getting to know someone’s true character rather than putting on a show or masking their feelings. 

  • Dating Etiquette

If you have already started dating one, the next step is getting to grips with their dating etiquette. They are more formal when meeting you for the first time and progress with the relationship at a slower pace. Casual dating is less common, and they are reluctant to disclose personal information too early. Moreover, they value politeness and punctuality and tend to be perfectionists in all they do.

  • Straightforward communication style

Germans appreciate clear and direct communication. They are honest and do not sugarcoat things when they want to make a point. Hence, it is best to be straightforward and direct when talking to them.

Moreover, they have an innate focus on solutions, not problems. This means they expect you to talk more about potential solutions instead of complaining when discussing an issue. So if you are courting someone from Germany, it is vital to get used to speaking openly and honestly about everything. You should also focus more on getting a resolution and less on talking circles around the problem!

  • Planning and Structure in Everything

Dating a German might also mean getting used to their love of planning and structure in everything they do. From making plans for grabbing dinner to coming up with a date idea, they are known for their preference for order. They like to plan out every detail in advance and will often ask loads of questions to better understand the situation before committing. This means you can trust your partner to think things through and come up with clear solutions to any problem. 

In a relationship, this can be both an advantage and a disadvantage. On the one hand, you know that the plans you make with them will be thoughtfully carried out; on the other hand, their focus on order makes them bad at surprises. However, it might not be an issue if you are already accustomed to this way of life.

  • Peculiar Sense of Humor

When you start seeing a German, you will quickly discover their unique sense of humor. It is witty and dry, with a lot of wordplay and subtlety. Also, do not expect them to get all your jokes right away. It might take a while for them to warm up to your more direct style of humor if you have one. Germans tend to appreciate the finer things in life, so if you can make a joke that shows your intelligence or appreciation for art while sexting, they will love that. 


Dating a German is a unique and exciting experience! However, before you start your journey, it is essential to keep an open mind, understand their culture, and be respectful. While cultural differences exist, with communication and patience, you can navigate them to find common ground and connect on a neutral level. Focus on getting to know your partner as an individual beyond stereotypes. With empathy, humor, and a willingness to learn from each other, you will be well on your way to creating a meaningful cross-cultural relationship.


Richard Owens
Richard Owens
Richard is a Editor-in-Chief at DatingCelebs. He loves Hollywood gossip, entertainment, and celebrity dating news. Follow him at @rowens13.